Tantrums at the table: what to do and what is absolutely best not to do?
While in my dreams mealtime is a time for family sharing throughout the day, I often encounter tantrums from my children, who are in the midst of asserting themselves. "You can't watch the TV at the table!" And then they start making a fuss about turning it off.
5 tips to avoid children's tantrums at the table
1. Try to have dinner together, in a relaxed and calm atmosphere, with the TV off and involving the child in family conversations and giving importance to the story of his day.
2. Involve them in preparing dinner, either by cooking together or by asking them to set the table. This is the best way to avoid tantrums during the meal because they'll feel satisfied and appreciated for their efforts.
3. If he refuses a dish, don't immediately scold him. Yelling and immediately raising alarm isn't helpful. Ask him why he doesn't want it and try to reach an agreement, for example, inviting him to try it in exchange for a portion of his favorite dish. Don't give in to blackmail, though; tasting is crucial!
4. Don't expect them to sit still for long periods. Children are naturally hyperactive. It's essential that they understand that mealtime is important and that they must remain composed. But if dinner drags on and they've finished, don't force their patience.
5. The 3-Rule Game: This applies to the table, as well as to the rest of family education. Giving children too many rules confuses them. It's better to think of three and repeat them to the child so he or she memorizes them. For example: sit properly, taste everything, and only get up when you're finished, with Mom and Dad's permission.
The best menu for children aged 3 to 8.
The food you put on your child's plate is crucial for avoiding tantrums. But while parents can have fun with tricks to get their children to eat, it's crucial to offer them a balanced menu that's suited to both their abilities and nutritional needs. Some children, especially around 3 years old, aren't fully capable of managing chewing, so we need to help them eat. Regarding their calorie needs, a child aged 3-8 years should consume between 1,350 and 1,800 calories a day. The ideal menu for this age group, also recommended by nutritionists, includes a breakfast with semi-skimmed milk and biscuits. For lunch, we can choose a lentil soup with pasta and a seasonal fruit. For dinner, fish is a good choice, such as sole or cod, with cooked vegetables, bread, and fruit again.
And what about school lunch?
And don't forget snack time, another essential meal for children. A convenient option, also suitable for on-the-go and with balanced nutritional values, is Citterio's Unduetris Merenda with cooked ham: it contains apple puree, breadsticks, and cooked ham sticks. Children will get the right amount of vitamins, carbohydrates, and proteins, meaning energy to expend while playing and having fun, and no tantrum will stop them from enjoying a snack like this!